Okay readers! I don’t know about you but as for me there have been many occasions in my life when I have felt like, I am stuck on a path and not sure of what I am doing or where I am going. My mind could become so blank to the extent that I can’t even think what next. At such moments in my life, it just feels easier to do nothing. Such moments in life reminds me of my experience some time ago when I had to visit a place I had never been before.
Have you ever been on a journey and suddenly got stuck, not sure which road or turn to take. Maybe like me, you thought you knew where you were going but suddenly, you are not sure anymore. you doubt yourself and your decisions. You suddenly don’t feel like continuing with that journey. You feel immobilized and you can not think yourself out of that situation. It’s easier to just go on a roundabout several times until you can decide where to turn or you just go back to where you are coming from.
The challenge for many of us is knowing what to do and doing it. There are many things you can probably do to get yourself out from that stuck place in your life but for the purpose of this article; using a real life case study of “Journeying”, I have come up with 5 things you should do when you feel stuck in the process of achieving that dream of yours. Before I embark on any journey, I am usually prepared. I make sure I write down my destination. I plot it on an AA Planner as well as
Before I embark on any journey, I am usually prepared. I make sure I write down my destination. I plot it on an AA Planner as well as Sat-Nav; but despite my preparation, I still sometimes get stuck finding myself in a frustrating condition.
Below are five things I usually do when I am stuck at a cross road. I believe they will help you to get out of that situation that you are stuck in.
The first thing I do as soon as I notice I am stuck is to STOP and take a look at my destination address again. I then check my AA planner and a map to see where I am and how I can move on from where I am. My greatest joy is to be able to identify where I am at that moment and able to map out a strategy to continue the journey. To help me know where I am, I take note of my environment, where are the signs pointing to? I look for the names of the streets or roads and something memorable to help remember where I am. If I don’t stop, there is no way I could re-evaluate things.
I am sure it does not come as a surprise to you that a lot of people when they discover they are stuck, they don’t STOP. They just take chances and continue on any road or take any turn that looks right to them. They take a gamble on the road or turn to take which in many cases leads to the wrong path, thereby causing delay or even frustration that may cause them to terminate the journey.
My advice is you must learn to STOP and take a look at the plan. If you have prepared for that journey, that dream, that calling on your life, then Go back to the drawing board, reassure yourself of the destination address, identify where you are and strategically take a decision on how to continue from where you are. Don’t go on a roundabout several times trying to figure out which turn to take. STOPPING helps you to see clearly and to read the road signs and helps you to make a better judgement of which way to take. Don’t be too much in a hurry to STOP, Stop to ask yourself questions. Stop to think, stop to look at the plan and stop to strategies.
Secondly, another thing I do when I am stuck is ASK QUESTIONS. I believe that asking questions shows how passionate you are to getting out of the unknown. A lot of people are scared or even too proud to ask for direction when they are stuck. They think it’s a sign of weakness and stupidity. One thing I have found out is that when I have asked for direction, I get help to be unstuck quicker than trying to figure out a way all by myself. It helps me to continue with the journey and thereby getting to my destination quicker than trying to do things all alone.
If you are stuck with that dream or project, then you need to ask for direction from others. Seek for information, speak to people. You will be amazed at the talent of people that surround you and their ability to help you get to where you are going. Don’t give room to failure because you are too shy or proud to ask for help. There are some people on your path who may not be able to help, don’t give up. Keep asking until you get someone who knows how to get to your destination. You are just one question away from reaching your destination.
Thirdly, if you want to get unstuck you must learn to LISTEN. Listen to your inner self, your intuition, the voice of your creator, that voice of greatness inside you trying to talk to you quietly. Listen to those giving you direction. I have been in situations where I ask for direction and as soon as the person starts talking I lost concentration and I stop listening either because I don’t understand what the person is saying or because the description appears difficult to follow. You must learn to listen to every detail that could help you get to your destination. It does not matter who is giving it. No knowledge is a waste. So LISTEN to the still small voice inside.
Fourthly, TAKE ACTION. The greatest book in the world, the bible says faith without works is dead. No matter how prepared you are, you are going nowhere without ACTION. For you to be unstuck you need to be well prepared for your purpose, you need to stop and ask self-realising questions, you need the help of others, you must listen to the still voice of greatness inside you and above all you must make a decision, take that step and ACT. Only then can you get unstuck.
Finally, DON’T GIVE UP. Do not terminate that journey out of frustration. If you are going on a journey and you meet a roadblock on the way, do you abandon the journey? NO! You need to strategies and CHANGE THE DIRECTION to get to where you need to go. So, don’t terminate that dream, CHANGE THE DIRECTION if you are stuck.
Rita O Effeyota