The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is another amazing book in the personal development and business world. It was first published in 1989 and written by Stephen R Covey
The values and standards taught by Covey are inspirational and should be read by those who are seeking to live a fulfilling life of purpose. The principles are relevant in every areas of life and not just in the business world and they have been the key to success of millions of people and business leaders all over the world
The first time I read this book, I had to go into myself to see how I am applying it in my marriage and other areas of my life. I was glad that I could see that I have been unconsciously practising some of the habits and my eyes were open to others that I need to work on. The Seven habits of highly effective people can be used to improve any area of your life eg marriage, family, business, self-development, your perception of the world around, finances and even create the life and wealth you deserve.
According to Covey our characters and who we are today is a composition of our daily habits. Changing those habits to become a better person is usually a painful process but can be achieved through determination to become the person you desire to be. You must be ready to give up what you are now, for what you want. To be able to go through this changes you must be able to draw on your core values in solving problems and handling difficult times rather than reacting to stimulus in the environment. This book will help you identify those habits that are holding you back from archiving your purpose in life.
Covey talked about the seven habits of highly effective people that we all need to develop, to enable us go through the three stages of character development identified in his book. The seven habits are:
Basically, Convey is saying that we have 3 types of control such as direct control, indirect control and no control. His advice is that we should focus on improving our lives through influencing those things we have control over weather directly or indirectly and leave those things we do not have control over because as we focus on those things we have control over, we can become more productive and effective. For example you do not have control over the bad behaviour of a partner but you have control over your responses and how you choose to use the situation at a given time for your advantage. The bad behaviour of a spouse can become the wings at which you fly on, to reach your purpose or you can choose to let it destroy you. Covey is saying be proactive in your decision, action and the way you see things around you and choose to make the best use of every situation.
Begin With the End in Mind
What is your core value in life, your vision and your mission statement. What will people remember you for if you die. What do you want to be remembered as. Think about this and set up the plan to achieve this by working on it. Knowing the end of the story will help you to stay on track when difficult times come. To be an effective individual you must know what you want out of life.
Put first things first
I don’t know about you but as for me life is so busy. I am a mother of 3 active boys whom I have to run around to get them to study and do their home work. It’s hard trying to prevent them from playing games, staying on computer and watching television all the time. I also work full-time 37.5hours, a minister in church and a blogger. Without prioritising and time management, I am constantly getting frustrated with making decisions on what to focus on each day. I am constantly distracted, as lots of important and urgent and not so urgent things are clamouring for my attention. The question is how can you make sure that with such busy lifestyle you can still be productive and effective. This is where Covey comes in to say that you must put first thing first by prioritising. We all know about prioritising but this book shows you how to identify the things in your life that should come first.
An effective person does not seek his own winning all the time. They seek to ensure that decisions are taken with views of others concerned. Ensuring that your actions are a win-win attitude and not win-lose attitude. Where everyone is a winner, productivity is high.
Seek to understand, then be understood
A good listening skill is a necessary habit for you to be an effective person in whatever capacity you occupy. You must learn to empathise with others and in return people will listen to you. Put yourself in other people’s shoe and understand their point of view and where they are coming from. An effective leader will gain the hearing of his organisation if he is the type of leader that usually listens to his people. if you want to be understood, first seek to understand others.
An effective solution can be reached through leveraging on the differences of other people. Basically diversity is a gift that an effective leader will use to bring about productivity and effective solutions.
Sharpen The Saw
The most import key to achieving success or effectiveness is “yourself”. You must stop to recharge your self battery. Your mind, body and soul. If you don’t take care of yourself, nobody will and sooner or later, you will loose the capacity to be productive.
I strongly recommend the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People if you are going through some struggles in your life and you are willing to be open to change. If you desire to be an effective leader, husband, wife, career person, pastor what ever your call may be, then you need to read this book which will teach you to improve your life by embracing all Seven habits that will help you to become an effective person in your job and in the way you manage conflicts and difficulties.
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